import numpy as np
import random

m = [
    [0, 0 ,0 ,0],
    [0 ,2 ,0 ,0],
    [0 ,1, 0 ,0],
    [0 ,0 ,0, 0]
    ]

x = 1 # x coordinate of 1 in the matrix
y = 1 # y coordinate of 1 in the matrix
neighbors = [] # empty list regarding the neighbors of 1 which will be generated with the loop

for x_elem in (x-1, x, x+1):
    for y_elem in (y-1, y, y+1):
        element = m[y_elem][x_elem] # getting the element in m

        neighbors.append(element) # taking that element and appending it to the neighbors list
        if map[y_elem][x_elem] == map[y][x]: # if the element is the same as itself (aka 1), remove it from neighbors
            neighbors.remove(map[y_elem][x_elem])

c = random.choice(neighbors) # take a random element fo the neighbors
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#how to get c's index in the 2d array m